This exercise will work at the end of pretty much any soft skills course, and especially an NLP-based course. The aim is to help participants transfer their learning from the training room into real life, and anticipate challenges so as…
10 Ways To Help Someone Close To You Loosen Up Their Limiting Beliefs
Even for experienced coaches and therapists, it’s not easy to help a person change when it’s someone close to you, because you’re emotionally involved yourself. If they’re stuck with a belief system that they know is holding them back, but they just…
How To Align Your Team Members With Your Goals
How do you make sure your team members are all aligned with the team’s goals? Step one is to make sure that you are clear on your vision for the team. You need to bring it to life in your…
How To Increase Your Emotional Intelligence 2: What If You Don’t Like Yourself?
When I worked as a hypnotherapist in the 1990s, I occasionally had clients who were scared of going into trance, or even of relaxing. I think that in some cases at least this fear derived from the popular idea of…
What Appreciative Inquiry Can Learn From NLP: How To Be A Better Appreciative Interviewer
Recently I was interviewed by Robyn Stratton-Berkessel for her ‘Positivity Strategist’ podcast about the relationship between Appreciative Inquiry and NLP. During the conversation a couple of connections occurred to me that I hadn’t thought of before. Firstly, let’s look at…
Questions In Coaching (4): ‘Chunking’ Up Or Down
Note: This article follows on from these others in the series: Questions in Coaching (1): Solution-focused or problem focused? Questions in Coaching (2): Presuppositions Questions in Coaching (3): Open versus closed questions Another important distinction in coaching questions is whether…
Tips For Sharpening Your Rapport Skills
Following on from previous articles about rapport and how to improve it, here are some ways you can develop your sensory acuity and rapport skills. Remember, it’s one thing to read about NLP and to know about it intellectually, quite…
The Best Podcasts For Brain Science, Understanding The Mind and People
Here’s my personal selection of some podcasts in the general area of understanding how people tick – ranging from neuroscience to management tips. The common denominator is that they all feature interviews, talks or contributions from leading researchers and practitioners…
Why ‘Calibration’ is important in communication
NLP jargon alert! “Calibration”. What on earth does this mean? You know if you have a pair of old fashioned kitchen scales, you have to make sure they are set to zero before you measure something. That way, you are…
Emotional Intelligence Tip: How can you mend a broken heart?
(in the words of Al Green) This posting is adapted from my contribution to a discussion on a life coaching forum – another coach was asking how best to help a client who was having trouble getting over the end…